A lot of couples are choosing to buck the traditional wedding vows and go freestyle, writing their own verses to recite to each other at the end of the aisle but if you’re going to write your own vows, how can make sure you do it well?
We’re going to be giving you our top tips on how to write wedding vows but also how to write them really well, so whether you want everyone to be laughing or crying, here’s how to write the best wedding vows…ever!
- Start Writing Sooner Rather Than Later
If you’re writing your own vows then they’re potentially going to be one of the most memorable parts of the whole day for both your partner and your guests, so you don’t want to leave it last minute and rush.
Start planning and writing sooner rather than later and give yourself plenty of time to make changes, reflect on what you’ve written and be sure you’re happy with what you’ve prepared.
This will also give you time to learn your vows off by heart if that is something you wish to do, as opposed to reading them off a paper.
- Establish Some Consistency Between Yours and Your Partner’s Vows
As much as you may want to keep your vows a secret until you’re face to face at the altar, you do need to establish some consistency between your vows to ensure it doesn’t turn into a competition on the big day.
Decide mutually on a rough length for your vows as well as the general tone you’re going for. You don’t want one of you to give a heartfelt, emotional speech while the other does nothing but crack jokes, so make sure you’re both on the same page without giving too much away.
- Make Your Own Version of the Traditional Lines
‘In sickness and in health’, ‘till death do we part’, we can all pick out some of the classic lines from the most traditional vows and the best way to ensure your vows say what they need to say is to write your own version of these key lines.
‘In sickness and in health’ can be changed to ‘standing by each other through it all’ and ‘till death do we part’ could be read as ‘nothing will ever break us apart’ but creating your own version of these most meaningful lines will ensure your vows stay on topic and give the whole thing a good structure while still putting things into your own words.
- Keep It Friendly
Even if you’re the couple that has a very ‘tongue in cheek’ relationship, constantly joking around and picking at each other, try and keep your wedding vows friendly because your whole audience will hear this speech and your inside jokes may not translate so well to a room full of people.
Your vows are your time to pour your heart out to your other half and have a bit of a laugh, so keep it friendly and flattering and avoid having the last dig, even if you do love a joke between you.
- Share Your Highs and Lows
No relationship is perfect and there’s no need to pretend yours is as it can be quite inspiring and motivating to hear about both the highs and lows of your relationship and realise how lucky you are to be in the position with each other you are today.
You don’t have to delve deeply personal and give your guests the key to all your darkest secrets but having a bit of light and shade in your vows makes them all the more meaningful.
- Do What Feels Right for You
You can read all the tips in the world for how to write the perfect vows but above all, they have to be right for you and your other half so go with your heart and your gut and do what you know will put a smile on your partner’s face on the day.
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to be the next Shakespeare and write what comes naturally. It’s obvious if someone isn’t speaking from the heart, so relax and write what comes to you straight away. If you’ve left enough time, you can always come back, add and change things so just enjoy the experience and that’s when your best words will come.
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