Top Tips for Writing a Groom’s Speech
With wedding season well underway now and even more weddings to come in the upcoming weeks, we’re pretty confident in saying there’s probably a fair few ‘grooms to be’ sat at home searching ‘how to write a speech’ as they prepare for that nerve-wracking moment in the spotlight.
Writing a winning groom’s speech involves creating the perfect balance of humour, emotion and storytelling but getting all those elements into a speech that isn’t going to take hours to recite can be a challenge.
We’re going to be sharing with you our top tips for writing an unforgettable groom’s speech that has everything any winning speech needs to have to ensure your guests remember your speech for a long time to come.
We’ve all been to weddings where the groom spoke for what felt like an hour but many of us will also have experienced a groom’s speech that was so short we forgot it ever happened, so to create a speech that your guests will remember for all the right reasons, it needs to be the perfect length.
Hitched spoke with two speech experts in their guide on how to write a great speech and they both agreed that the ideal speech from the groom is around 8-minutes long.
Aiming for this length will ensure your speech is long enough to be remembered by your guests as substantial and meaningful but short enough to keep everyone engaged for the duration of your speech and will help avoid that awkward period of time where everyone has just simply tuned out.
Traditionally, a portion of the groom’s speech should be dedicated to thanking various people but to ensure your speech remains concise and interesting, you need to make just the right amount of thank yous.
There could well be a whole host of people you want to thank for making your special day possible but if you individually name and applaud each and every one of those individuals, your speech will either become very long and tiresome for those listening or you’ll have no time left to speak about anything else.
The most important people to thank include your parents, your in-laws, your best man and ushers, the maid of honour and bridesmaids and a quick ‘thank you for being here today’ covers everyone else.
You’ve just married the love of your life and now is the perfect opportunity to recognise her in front of all your nearest and dearest and show your love and appreciation.
The main focus of your speech should be your wife, your relationship and your new life together and although the way you structure this and what you say about these things is down to you to decide, be sure you dedicate enough of your speaking time towards her.
No matter how much of a comedian you think you are, your groom’s speech is not the time to be cracking a joke every other sentence.
Although your speech should have an element of humour and a light-hearted feel from time to time to keep everyone interested and involved, it’s main purpose is to be sincere and thoughtful, so it’s best to leave the comedy act to your best man.
If you browse the internet for advice on how to write a groom’s speech, you’ll find a lot of information on how to create the perfect ‘traditional’ speech, that follows a certain structure and includes specific opportunities to thank people and give gifts out and although these are good guidelines to follow, they’re just that, guidelines.
The best thing you can do is keep it personal and pick out the elements of a traditional speech that you like and are relevant to your wedding.
Everyone at your wedding is likely to be your closest friends and family and therefore they’ll know you very well, so there’s no point putting on a speech that is really unlike you because it won’t come across naturally.
Not a tip for writing but giving your speech, say it loud and clear. It’s important that you’re happy and proud of what you’ve written and that after you’ve spent so much time preparing this speech and no doubt rehearsing it, you want everyone to hear you properly.
You could be speaking to a big room if you’ve had a large wedding reception, so it’s important that the people at the back of the room can hear you just as well as the people sat next to you.
Project your voice to the back of the room but don’t shout. If you open your mouth fully on every word and speak at a manageable and clear pace, your words will come out perfectly for everyone to hear.
There are so many things to think about when you’re a groom planning a wedding. From the wedding suits to the stag do, as well as everything else your bride to be needs your help with, it can be easy for your speech to get forgotten about.
Whether you’re planning well in advance or you’ve left it a little late, we hope these tips have helped you put together the perfect speech for your wedding day.
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